“Some roads we travel in life can feel like the ones that might break us, but that’s why God surrounds us with people who will cheer us on and wipe our tears and listen as we pour out our hearts. Because often it’s not what you say but what you do that really matters.”
Right after finishing this book, I wanted to show up at all of my girlfriend’s houses and hug them. The only thing that stopped me is the fact that we live in 5 different states (although one is my roommate!), so I’ll settle for Skype calls instead. But y’all – this book is a must!
This book had me laughing a ton, crying and once again reminded of the incredible beauty of friendship. If you are female and you have friends, then you need to read this book!
There is nothing as precious in life as a friend who knows you and loves you in spite of yourself. Yet over the last couple of decades, we’ve substituted the joy of real friendship with cheap imitations. We settle for “community” on Facebook and Twitter and a series of text messages that allow us to communicate with someone without the commitment. We like each other’s beautifully filtered photos on Instagram and delude ourselves into believing we have a community. But real friendship requires effort. It’s showing up, laughing loud, and crying hard. It’s forgiving and loving and giving the benefit of the doubt. It’s making a casserole, doing a carpool pickup, and making sure she knows those cute shoes are 50 percent off. Written in the same comedic style as the New York Times bestsellers Sparkly Green Earrings and The Antelope in the Living Room, Nobody’s Cuter than You is a laugh-out-loud look at the special bond that exists between friends and a poignant celebration of all the extraordinary people God had the good sense to bring into our lives at exactly the right moments. From the friendships we develop over a lifetime to the ones that wounded us and the ones that taught us to love better, Melanie Shankle reveals the influence our friends have on who we were, who we are, and who we will become. And on a day when our jeans feel too tight, our chins have decided to embrace hormone-related acne reminiscent of our teen years, and our kids have tested the limits of our sanity, they are the ones who will look at us and say, “Nobody’s cuter than you!”
In her classic humor, Melanie shares her honest struggles early on of fitting in, finding your friend soul mates and how they become a part of you and are with you every step of the way – the good, the bad and the heart breaking. She’s honest, she’s real and I loved how she was able to express so much of what I feel towards my girlfriends!
“Having you soul knit to another isn’t for the faint of heart. It means you bear your own hurts along with those of your friend. You cry when she cries and laugh when she laughs and come up with plots to kill someone who causes her any pain. You love harder, laugh louder, live richer, and become more together than you could ever be by yourself. Soul knitting is putting your heart and your name in the hands of another person and saying, “I trust you with all of this” and having that person do that same.” (64)
It’s so important to have those girlfriends in your life. I don’t know what I’d do without mine. Even though many of my closest girlfriends are states away, they have truly shaped me into the woman I am. And as Melanie shared some of her crazy stories, I couldn’t help but crack up thinking of some of mine. It reminded me of an e-card I saw once that said “We can never stop being friends, you know too much.” Ain’t that the truth?
So if you couldn’t tell, I loved every page and highly recommend. There’s even awesome appendices! I want to give a copy to all my friends – and I probably will : )
Oh, and y’all she quotes Tollers and Jake (in case you don’t share my obsession, that’s what Tolkien and Lewis called each other). What more could have sealed the deal of the awesomeness of this book than quoting those two?
Do you live close to your best friend? Ooo and what are some of your favorite stories of friendship?
(Thank you to Tyndale for a copy of the book in exchange for my honest review)